Growing up, we all had wishes, dreams, fantasies and hopes. In the midst of all these we experienced confusion, anger, rebellion, unanswered questions, pain and frustration. All these emotions were paramount when we were teenagers.
Take a moment and think, how you experienced teenage hood.
Today, we will take a journey down our memory lane and let her vent, laugh, tell, enjoy and just be her. Yes you read that right. We will indulge the teenage girls in ourselves in spaces we’ve felt unheard, unseen an unknown. We won’t wait for people outside ourselves to come and hear, see or know her. We will let her take the spotlight of our lives during this Binafsi moment and listen, see, know, trust and learn about her.
This is what every teenage girl longs for. Surely, we can change the reality of a teenage girl in our lives if be it a daughter, niece, granddaughter or mentee. Take this moment to gift this girl and let her connect to her greatest discovery journey of knowing herself through the Princess Princessa program.
Catherine Kabaki, shares on how her journey of enrolling her daughter for the program has shaped her relationship with her as she transitions into young adulthood. Also, on Get this understand in depth a snippets of wisdom on nurturing relationships as children grow up so that they are adults with a solid base.
WHOA! LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING!!
My Relationship With My Daughter Has Blossomed to a Unique Experience!
- FROM A PARENT’S PERSEPCTIVE
I always worked towards a relationship with my daughter where there is mutual trust, confidence and healthy expression in each moment. I longed for her to have a solid foundation of her own identity and who she belonged to. Now, our relationship has blossomed into a unique experience for each of us.
I was concerned that my relationship with my teenage daughter, Myanla Kabaki, was experiencing poor communication and that she had began withdrawing from me when she was sixteen. Her value systems had seemed to have changed since she was rejecting what I had instilled in her growing up.
I was concerned that my relationship with my teenage daughter, Myanla Kabaki, was experiencing poor communication and that she had began withdrawing from me
Initially, even when she came for the program she did involuntarily. During the program, I would find her doing the assignments from class, which I found hopeful. Until one day, she asked me, “Mum, what were you hoping to achieve when you signed me up for the program?”
This question led me to share with her how a program by Alabastron, Renewing Self, had impacted me at a personal level candidly. This way I was able to express to her that I felt enrolling her for the program would also transform her. This aspiration was confirmed when she went back to the school after the holiday she had taken the program. She was more assertive with her choices. She began engaging with teachers and expressing her struggles with various subjects. I could easily see her become her own self! This influenced my parenting as it came from a place of trust and love.
I have always desired that when they see me for whom I really am, they will accept me, as I really am. Interestingly, after doing the renewing self-program is the first time it occurred to me that my daughter who was then 16 would desire the same thing from everyone around her, starting off with her mum
As far as I was concerned, my daughter and I were the Kenyan version of the Tv show Gilmore Girls but somehow roundabout age 16, she came home from boarding school one holiday and I remember thinking? WHAT DID THEY DO WITH MY DAUGHTER?? As I was trying to present calmness whilst in full panic mode I also became conscious of the look on her face that I could only interpret as, WHAT DID THEY DO WITH MY MOTHER?
However, one fine day, i came to the realization that my daughter, whom I had encouraged all along to be independent thinking, assertive (even in her quietness), bold and loyal, had reached a point where she was actually exhibiting all these traits... She was just not exercising them in the way I thought she should. I had to take a step back and acknowledge my fear, let go of trying to control her and say, okay my dear, show me who you are. I promise you, there is no version of who you are and the young woman you are becoming that will ever make me walk away from you. I accept you!
My Relationship With My Daughter Has Blossomed to a Unique Experience!
I was concerned that my relationship with my teenage daughter, Myanla Kabaki, was experiencing poor communication and that she had began withdrawing from me. Catherine Kabaki, shares on how her journey of enrolling her daughter for the Princess Princessa program
Today on Teach us Something; Bevaline Ombewa, teaches us on using milk as a source of healthy, natural oil.
Simply, here are the easy steps to naturally extract oil that is Ghee from milk.
Directions:
Step 1: Boil milk mostly the one directly from the cow is more efficient.
Step 2: Warm the oil up in your hands by rubbing your hands back and forth
Step 3: Let it cool to extract a thick rich cream
Step 4: Separate the cream from the milk.
Step 5: Use high heat to cook the cream then lower the heat to get natural oil from milk.
Yes, that is it. You can try it today and share your experience at binafsi@alabastron.org
Thank you for all who have given us feedback so far, we want to hear from you! Send us your comments on binafsi@alabastron.org we would love to hear what you are enjoying and what you would like to see more of and see you next Tuesday for some more Binafsi time!
Alabastron Network Trust is an organization that is committed to equipping women to identify their self-defeating patterns and deal with them in order to live significantly.
